My Familia

This is my familia having lunch in celebration of my daughters birthday!

We All Need to Find a Way to Relax

I love the fact that each individual we meet as we walk through our daily lives is unique and precious. We all look different, have our own priorities in life, practice a variety of faiths that bring us comfort and strength, and contain a personal history that was written for no one else. As I get to know new clients, I enjoy learning what activities they choose for relaxation. Some find that a day of shopping for great deals among the crowded malls is a great way to release tension. Others grab a romance novel and slide into a hot bubble bath in order to ease the stress of the day. Yes, there are also men and women who are convinced that jumping out of an airplane and skydiving to the earth is the greatest way of relaxing. My concern for those who seek my professional counsel begins when they tell me that cannot find any way to relax at all.

We all need to find some method through which we can reach a true state of relaxation. Only then are we able to focus our thoughts and really hear what our body, mind, and spirit need. And, as I mentioned above, there are many paths to this destination. Without the slowing of our hectic pace and the dedicated time just to focus on our needs, we will be no good to others. So, I ask you this question. What do you do to relax? How do you reconnect with yourself and take a break from all of your daily responsibilities? I certainly hope that you have an answer.

If you cannot relax, it is time for you to learn some skills that will change this unhealthy pattern. In my new book, The Anja Technique, I guide my readers through five powerful steps to self-love that all involve key relaxation techniques. You will come to find yourself more connected with your own needs and enjoying a heightened level of confidence and empowerment that perhaps you have never felt before. I hope you will give The Anja Technique a try. I would love to hear from you with any questions or feedback!

Low Self-Esteem Starts Early and Can Quickly Become a Dominant Player in Your Life

There is one overwhelming problem that, if it exists within our minds and controls our everyday thoughts, will spill over into all aspects of our life. We will find ourselves unable to sustain a healthy relationship. We will not be as successful as we could be at work. We will shy away from all of the amazing new experiences that await us as we travel through this world. I am referring to the status of our self-esteem. To be sure, we have all been through stages in our life when we were not feeling as confident about ourselves as we would like. It is only natural that certain events or transitions will make you a bit uncomfortable in your own skin. However, you should be concerned about the status of your self-esteem when feeling poorly about yourself simply becomes an accepted way of life. When you are doing everything you can to blend into the background and remain unnoticed because you deem yourself unworthy of positive attention, you end up creating a self-imposed isolation that inevitably will leave you feeling helpless and hopeless. This is no way to live. Please know that you have the power within yourself to make your self-esteem a mark of pride, not of embarrassment.

More often than not, low self-esteem is developed in childhood. If you receive negative messages about your own worth from parents, siblings, teachers, peers, coaches, or other influential people in your young life, those words can become engrained in your psyche. These negative interactions can be as simple as not receiving enough encouragement or affirmation from your early role models to being as egregious as outright physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. Unless steps are taken to remedy the damage done to your self-esteem as a child, these attacks perpetrated on your spirit will manifest themselves in dangerous ways once you become an adult. Lack of self-esteem is nearly always a contributing factor in cases of sexual promiscuity, addictions, social anxiety, and the compulsive desire to please. If you are suffering from low self-esteem, I know that none of this information comes as a surprise to you.

With there being no doubt that self-esteem is a huge roadblock to your true enjoyment of life and all of its blessings, what can you do to release yourself from its bondage and realize a sense of confidence that previously seemed impossible? I would like to suggest that hypnotherapy has the potential to change your opinion of yourself and remove the power that those who affected your childhood have held over you for so long. With the assistance of a trained hypnotherapist, you can retrain your unconscious mind to ignore the hurtful words and actions that have been pushed on you throughout your life. Can you imagine the freedom of that shift in your thinking? You will no longer believe that you are not smart, not attractive, and not worthy. Instead, that old way of thinking will be cast aside and a new person will emerge who is ready to embrace whatever life has to offer. Does this sound good to you? If so, I hope you will decide to learn more about the safe and effective tool of hypnosis and what it can do for you.

Is a Lack of Confidence Holding You Back at Work?

There are various components of our life that, at different points, can bring us great joy or sadness. Our personal relationships, physical health, casual interactions, and sense of self are all important pieces of our existence that fluctuate depending on the season. There is also the element of our lives that, for many of us, requires more of our time than almost anything else … our jobs. Are you satisfied with the point at which you currently find yourself in your career? Have you been longing for a promotion after years as a dedicated employee, but cannot figure out why someone else is always chosen for the corner office or the substantial raise? Being frustrated with your job situation can result in a growing unhappiness in other areas of your life. If this sounds familiar, it’s time for a change.

Many of you probably have read articles and books that provide advice concerning how to get ahead in the workplace. Find someone who already has the job you want and model your efforts after that person. Always greet each person in your office with a smile and a firm handshake. Ask your boss what you can be doing to improve the organization or business for which you work. Taking the initiative will be remembered! All of these pieces of advice are accurate and proven techniques for greater office success. However, none of these components will work without a genuine confidence in your own abilities. You need to believe that you are successful before anyone else will.

Clinical hypnotherapy is a wonderful way of unlocking any hindrance that you may have to feeling self-confident. Through safe relaxation techniques, a trained professional can unlock the hang-ups and doubts that are stored in your unconscious mind and teach you to think about yourself in a whole new light. In my new book, The Anja Technique, I have provided information about some exercises that you can complete in the comfort of your own home. You deserve to learn why you are lacking the confidence you need to succeed in both your professional and your personal life. Make the decision to start that exploration today.

Who is your best friend?

Chloe and Otis hanging - waiting for the doorbell to ring and keeping the
house under guard. Aren't you scared?

This is my little Pom Chloe who is 2.5 pounds. She is our spoiled baby. I
went out and bought her a stroller so I could take her for walks around the
block and she loves it! It is hilarious because the neighbors think I am
walking a baby....not a dog.

Oh Otis. Looks like he thinks he has been a bad boy.